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Thanks for all the well wishes.
Rossy I’m with dr harkin too , haven’t met her yet though.
I’m 21 weeks today but it still all feels surreal.. Won’t relax till baby is out and healthy.
Scans and doctors appointment do little to ease the nerves … Maybe for a day or two but then the worry sets in again.
Going be a long few months …
Try to relax – I know thats almost impossible with what you’ve been through but its most likely that all will go well this time so try to not worry too much and enjoy the pregnancy as much as you can. xx
yikes don’t envy you that pain. I had a very bad flu & sinus infection when i was pregnant on DD2 and ended up giving in and taking pencillen too.
Gald to hear you’re over the worst of it and that babs is doing well. xo22 weeks – just think you are over half way there now.im sure that all the doctors are keeping a very close eye on you & baba. let us know how the next scan goes for you.As always sending lots of positive thoughts your way xx
Glad all going well!
If you want me to hold on to any of my baby clothes / blankets / stuff etc just let me know. Have lots of neutral stuff as never knew what sex baby was in advance. You’d be more than welcome at some stage to come over & pick out anything that catches your fancy – or just have a cuppa!
Glad all is going well!
Oh you poor thing with the tooth! That sounds painful 🙁
Dr Harkin is a lady, I was with her on DS.. you will feel very comfortable with her! xxx
Not overly keen tbh Yvonne …
In fact haven’t been enamoured at all with any aspect of it so far… Have had to explain myself a load of times ( distressing ).. Seen loads of different people ( none of which read my file )….
And they wanted to boot me out of the high risk clinic… As apparently I’m not …. I know what happened was rare but for my own peace of mind I need those extra scans… Anyway I put my foot down and I’m staying in it.
Be glad when it’s over, it’s very traumatic each visit tbh
Oh for God’s sake….
A work colleague had a similar type of experience. She lost a toddler daughter to meningitis in OLOL & when she was back in the hospital the following year (?) with her sick son – wait for it – they put her in the exact room where her child had died. Talk about insensitive.
Stick to your guns. Bring someone with you if you can to ALL of your appointments as reinforcements. Is it OLOL? Am on maternity leave so pm me if I can be of any help at any time in any way. Have car etc…
I can only imagine it’s frsutrating and upseting having to repeat yourself all the time – i’m really glad to hear you’ve put your foot down though. It doesn’t matter that what happened your DD2 was rare it happened and you understandably need re-assurance!
23 weeks tomorrow HMM xoxoThats very frustrating that you have to explain yourself each time you see someone! Pity you just couldn’t see the same person each time, would save you alot of heartache. You were right to put your foot down.
If you explained how you are feeling, would Dr Harkin see you herself, even in her rooms?
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Could your husband put a call into the Doctor at the hospital on your behalf and ask them to please make a note to read your notes at your visits to that can try to be a bit more sensitive to you when you come in and to be actually aware of what happened to you last year? There is no way you should not be classed as high risk – you need extra attention and looking after – for your body and for your mind. Its stunning to me that they fail to understand that!
I know suggesting your husband call them might sound a bit mental (and like something from the 1950’s) but sometimes when a husband steps in and speaks to the doctor or midwives in charge, they takenote and will remember you when you come in.
If he can help and if it eases your mind, then it might be worth a go.
You can rub raw garlic on your gum and that should ease the pain where the tooth was pulled or you could try some homeopathic remedies – Bernie Condon is a local homeopath and is very good, she might be able to recommend some things for your gum. She is at http://berniecondon-homeopathyinlouth.ie/
Sending you a virtual hug. If you are free on 7th May, we have our next Bagel Bar Drogheda get together and you can come and get a real hug. x
Thanks for all your support ladies and offers of help!
Yvonne it was herself that I saw the last time, she was the one who thought I shouldn’t be in the high risk clinic.
I’m hoping that it will get better.
There is supposed to be a system in place where there is a sticker on the front of my file to alert them to a neonatal loss, this was something the organisation Alff had brought in but it doesn’t appear to be in OLOL.
When I go for my scans I also have to request a certain room and also a specific woman NOT to scan me..each time I have to put this request in at the time there is no continuity.
I hear what your saying about dh ringing in but to be honest he’s pretty clueless, I will just deal with it myself.
The time before last was the worst, it was my first visit to the high risk clinic after several early scans at the EPU ( why are we scanning you today…asked each time) and I thought finally everything would be organised but i walked in and the first thing the doctor said was what number pregnancy is this…cue hysterics. read the F****ING file!!!!!!!!!!!!
My file is about 2 foot thick its obvious there must have been a problem…The last visit I was about to be put into ANOTHER registrars room when a midwife that happened to remember getting me a cup of water the last time said no wait and I’ll take you to see Dr Harkin..and then me thinking finally it would all be ok and then her saying i shouldn’t be there!!!!!
She does have a point in that we have to treat THIS pregnancy not the last and I’m not at risk. She said I’d had my anomoly scan and all was well…it was bloody well the last time too ..scanned and signed off perfect by a senior specialist scanner at 24 weeks…7 weeks later I’m holding my daughters hand getting her baptised then never seeing her alive again due to nothing being as it should be with her insides….so excuse me if I need extra TLC..
Have to say mentally its very tough..I can handle it though but I won’t relax until I see a live baby in my house.
I don’t post on usual pregnancy forums, I only post a little here and mainly post over on the pregnancy after bereavement threads on my safe haven site A little lifetime foundation (ALLF)..
I will try and make the next mumstown coffee morning its been a while.
Thanks again for your support, sometimes I just need to vent and have a moan.
Yes 23 weeks today..feels like 123 ..but time is passing ok it just seems ages since we found out on my little angels birthday!
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