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hi Pam, hope you bearing up ok. The main thing you need to understand right now, is that you did nothing wrong. We tend to question ourselves at a time like this and think in terms of ‘if only I did this’ or ‘what if I didn’t do that’? but in reality, most miscarriages are caused by unknown complications. Some experts say there is an extra chromosome in the baby and it cannot survive but whatever the reason, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it from happening and hopefully – if and when you are ready to try again, it will all go ok next time.
take care of yourself, especially over the next few days, its not just emotionally exhausting but physically too so you’ll need lots of TLC.
Very good advice, but i think that is just part of getting over it, I think every woman has asked "what if i did this or what if i didnt do that". But just to second what Sabbi said, you didnt do anything wrong xxxx
Hi Pam,
Youre not on your own. On exactly the same day we lost our baby too at just over 11 weeks. were devastated. Im 39. although I already have two children, Im desperate for a third, and wont be happy till i I get there. Ive had about six or seven miscarriages; most of them were quite early, but this time I was sure it was going to happen for me. All I can say is give yourself time to grieve, whatever that may take and I think positive thinking has to set in at some point. Get well, get fit, be determined that this will happen for you. Although it was only Monday, Im already trying to get into this positive mode myself;
the doctor explained to me that recurrent miscarriages do eventually stop and you will go on to produce a healthy baby. I think if this is your first miscarriage all the more hope there is for a successful attempt next time round.
Im going for some acupuncture myself to Mark Bell in Drogheda. Hes really good and specialises in treatment for all sorts of infertility problems.
id also recommend that you ask your doctor to check your progesterone levels seven days after ovulation and if it measures over 60nmols its good; if not seek treatment.
Best of luck and keep us informedI went to Mark Bell after our second miscarriage last year and found him very helpful. I was feeling awful and it definitely helped get my cycle back on track and within a few months, we were lucky enough to conceive and all went well for us.
Maybe after some time, you might look in to doing something like this for yourself Pam. Its nice to just have that time where someone listens to you and the treatment is very relaxing too.
take care of yourself in next few days & weeks especially. x
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