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I was just listening to Gerry Ryan today and to John and Kate talking about the loss of their young children Daniel and Kieran. I have met with John, Kate and many other parents through Anamcara, a support group for bereaved parents. Like them, I too lost my little girl Niamh suddenly in 2005. She was 5yrs old. Its one of the toughest things a family can experience and it changes your life forever. However, its good to hear parents like John and Kate talking about their children and ensuring they are never forgotten. You never get over loosing your child but you do learn to live again somehow and carry their memory with you through life. .
Just to let people know that Anamcara are also running ‘A Balloon to Remember’ campaign. You can sponsor a balloon for €2,there are boxes in Eddie Rocket Diners, Centra stores and McCabe Pharmacies. You can then go onto the website http://www.anamcara.ie and leave a messge in the ‘Book of Rememberance’ online. The balloons will be released on 2nd November to remember all these special children.
awe mummy5, so sorry for your loss of your darling daughter Niamh 🙁
I will check out our centra to see if they have the campaign box.
Thinking of you
xxx
So sorry for your loss Mammy5.
I cant even imagine the pain you are going through.
My friend lost her little girl last year, so i must tell her about this, although she may know already.
You seem so brave.
take care.
Hi mummy5 very sorry for the loss of your daughter Niamh – i heard part of the interviews yesterday – so very hard to go through i would imagine. I too have a friend you lost a baby only recently must make sure she knows about this. Will also try to get to a Centra for a balloon
Thanks girls for all your replies and words of support. It was the biggest shock of my life by far. As I say to everyone now, don’t worry about the money, bills, recession etc.etc. As long as there is life there is always hope.
It’s when my daughter died that I experienced real sadness and real loss of hope. Thankfully, I am now in a real good place and much as I miss my little girl every minute of every day I am still able to laugh, smile, live life and enjoy my other children so much.
If you know anyone who has lost a child, please tell them about Anamcara. I go to the local meeting here in Drogheda, on the 2nd Wednesday of the month in the Glenside Hotel, 7.30-9. Its local parents coming together to support each other in any way we can through a really hard time in our lives.
Sorry about your loss.
My story is not as tragic as yours, and I always asked myself should I meet parents who lost a child, as I’m afraid to be sad, and that I should not go as my son was very premature (he died nearly 8 years ago), so it’s not as tragic and over-whelming as losing a child you spend years with.
I met him for only 2 weeks in NICU, but compare to miscarrage I had the chance to meet him, and people aknowledge my grief.So i’m feeling luckier than most. I’m an happy mum and wife.
And I feel happy here in Ireland because I can talk about him. In France I can’t. You should see people’s faces when you "drop the bomb"…My grand-mother always says as long you don’t see your intestines on a stone (french expression) there’s hope, and should not complain and be happy. It’s like you said, recession, and bad fortune will always pass as long there is life there is hope.
Take care,
Fabiennehi mummy5,
thanks for highlightin this on here, i have made the donation already as i also lost a child last year. like fabienne my baby was not with me for long she died when she was 3 weeks old, but no matter how short their time with us they will forever be missed and remembered.
also good to highlight the monthly meetings as i didnt know about them and i am sure they are a great support, again like fabienne says people who havnt had such a tradegy just dont know what to say…
luv n hugs x
That is so sad to hear all Your loses, i just cann’t imagine this 😥 You are going through!
I agree to Mymmy5 – nothing compares to a life, to happy child,husband, mum dad next to You!!!
I have 3 children and feel so so so sorry for thos parents who lost their child,no matter how long time you had with them, they still are gift of God and precious!God help You All!
Fabienne, so ssorry to hear you have felt the loss of your baby son. My heart lurched when you said your loss wasn’t as tragic or as overwhelming as loosing a child you know for longer. Your loss is your loss. You carried your baby and also the hopes and dreams for this new person who was coming into the world. You envisaged a new addition to your family and hedid come into the world, only he stayed a very short time. But he was here and will always be your son. Don’t ever feel your loss is less or not as important. I lost my little girl when she was 5yrs but I still lost all my hopes and dreams for her future too just like you did. I carried her for 9months and never once imagined this is how it would be in the future.
Anamcara have ‘core values’ which are on the website and the first one is "1. To respect each other’s grief – no one’s grief is greater then another’s, no one’s loss less than another’s" and another core value is "7.Inclusitivity – no matter how old your son or daughter was, how they died, or how long ago their death occurred."
Don’t ever feel your loss is less. Maybe if you feel its something positive to do you could go onto the book of rememberance on the Anamcara website to remember your son.
Take Care, Mummy5Hi Scotsmum,
So sorry to hear you also lost a little girl when she was 3 weeks old.
I think its good to highlight that it is okay to talk about our children we have lost as sometimes people aren’t sure if its okay to keep talking about them. Some people say friends and family can stop mentioning the child, or the child’s name as they are afraid it might make you sad or cry. But as I tell them I never forget I have lost a child. I carry it with me every day I wake up, and if you mention her by name then you might just make me smile. But they can’t make me sadder, I’ve done all the ‘sad’. I don’t go around miserable all the time, but I try to live life as I would have done if she was here as life is too precious to waste.
I just like to keep the word out there that there is a charity ‘Anamcara’ that is there for parents who have lost children. When I lost my daughter it wasn’t out there and I only met with a few women sharing a coffee who had an idea of setting up something like this. It’s gone from strength to strength which shows it is needed by parents.
i’m so sorry to hear about all your sad experiences. i’lldefinitely make it a point to support this cause.
xxxx
U can hardly read this post..my heart is breaking for all your loss..I have two beautiful little boys and although they drive me up the wall I try to keep reminding myself of how special these times are…the tought of losing them, God I cannot even go there…this is a great cause and I will spread the word too… you are all an inspiration, as too are your little angels…XX
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