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Sadly, found out today, having a missed miscarriage. Went for a scan this morning and there was no heartbeat and the baby has not grown at all, so doc says it looks like a missed miscarriage. Should be 8-9 weeks now but no sign of baby at all. Very sad.
Have to go back next week and have D&C, unless have a natural miscarriage before then. Have some bleeding today and am in two minds whether its better to go through it naturally or be brought in, put to sleep and wake up for it all to be over.
Have been through m/c before so have an idea what lays ahead, the labour pains and bleeding can be hard to cope with, knowing there is no baby at the end of it so at the moment, the being put to sleep option seems kinder. Maybe that sounds mad – just dreading the next few days and wish it could all be over with the least amount of pain and awareness of what’s happening.
Think am still in shock tbh; so probably not being rational at moment. Since found out about the pg, had sore boobs, belly had popped out, had bits of nausea and was tired too, so thought everything would be ok.
Guess we cannot take anything for granted when it comes to babies and pregnancy. It’s an unpredictable business…
Off upstairs now for a bath and a nap. Doc said to rest, so going to take her up on that and just take it easy over next few days and do my best to cope with whatever comes my way.
Hi Daisy37
Thinking of you, hope you are doing okay, i know exactly what youre going through the same happened to me last year.
Its an awful time for you im sure , I will say a prayer for you, try take it easy.
Jo
Daisy im so sorry to hear about you Missed miscarriage, its a very cruel mc as everything seems to be normal, sore boobs, growing bump, morning sickness.
I know just how you feel, its such a hard choice do i allow mc to happen or go for the D&C and it be all over and done with. I choose the natural route and i was so sorry that i did, as you say the bleeding and the labour pains etc. I went through it for days and ended up getting a D&C. A week is a long time and maybe it might happen, but if it hasnt i would recommend you go for the D&C as it can be very very hard when it all drags on a bit
Look you know where i am and feel free to text or email me or even call over here for a coffee and a good cry xxxxx Give big hug to your dh from me 😉Will they rescan next week before the d&c? just in light of all the reports in the media over the past few weeks
I have to say the staff at the hospital could not have been more thorough and professional and sympathetic in our case.
They scanned me 3 times in total, once at my first appt (7.5 weeks) to look for a heartbeat, then at my second appt to check again for any sign of a heartbeat (I was almost 10 weeks at this one) and then the day before my D&C
In terms of what was going on in the media, its truly awful but it was the furthest thing to what we personally experienced.
They doctors and nurses were patient, kind and explained everything to us and even with the scans, they were very detailed I had one external and two internal – just to be 100% sure the pregnancy was not viable.
The stuff in the media really upset us. Thinking about the possibility of that happening to any defenseless baby is truly awful but I wonder if it was magnified by the press? I doubt this happened often and I fervently hope it only happened a rare few times and the media are just making it sound worse than it is (and terrifying couples and giving them more worry and sadness and possible guilt too)
I also had a miscarriage 6 years ago and even back at that time, I was scanned twice and was due for a third scan but I actually miscarried fully the night before I was due the 3rd scan. They still went ahead and scanned me to check that my miscarriage was complete and to check if I needed a D&C. Thankfully, I did not and while I was distraught at least they were professional, medically.
So basically, I just want to say the hospital were absolutely thorough and really great with me – and they were very supportive of my husband too and it really made a difference to us.
It was still horrific to go through but receiving an excellent standard of care definitely helped us through.
I never thought I would praise anything about our shabby health system but credit where its due and they deserve it.
I have to say the staff at the hospital could not have been more thorough and professional and sympathetic in our case.
They scanned me 3 times in total, once at my first appt (7.5 weeks) to look for a heartbeat, then at my second appt to check again for any sign of a heartbeat (I was almost 10 weeks at this one) and then the day before my D&C
In terms of what was going on in the media, its truly awful but it was the furthest thing to what we personally experienced.
They doctors and nurses were patient, kind and explained everything to us and even with the scans, they were very detailed I had one external and two internal – just to be 100% sure the pregnancy was not viable.
The stuff in the media really upset us. I do quite like thispost about crazy bulk. Thinking about the possibility of that happening to any defenseless baby is truly awful but I wonder if it was magnified by the press? I doubt this happened often and I fervently hope it only happened a rare few times and the media are just making it sound worse than it is (and terrifying couples and giving them more worry and sadness and possible guilt too)
I also had a miscarriage 6 years ago and even back at that time, I was scanned twice and was due for a third scan but I actually miscarried fully the night before I was due the 3rd scan. They still went ahead and scanned me to check that my miscarriage was complete and to check if I needed a D&C. Thankfully, I did not and while I was distraught at least they were professional, medically.
So basically, I just want to say the hospital were absolutely thorough and really great with me – and they were very supportive of my husband too and it really made a difference to us.
It was still horrific to go through but receiving an excellent standard of care definitely helped us through.
I never thought I would praise anything about our shabby health system but credit where its due and they deserve it.
I am so sorry to hear that news.
It must be very difficult for you. May God give you strength and courage to bare that.Hi Daisy37,
I am so sorry that you lost your baby. I know it has been over 9 months since your mc but I’m sure you still have days of sadness.
I mc on Christmas eve at 20 weeks and it has been the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I now know the deep sadness a mother to be (and fathers too) feels when they loose a baby. Because I was over 20 weeks I had our little boy Julian naturally in labor and delivery ward.
Today I found out that my cousin went for her scan (12 wks) and she was told her baby stopped dev at 8 weeks. She is so upset and I understand her pain. She also said that she goes back to the hospital tomorrow, they do another scan, give her 2 pills (I think she has to insert) and they are sending her home to have her baby. After they will bring her in for a D&C.
I really don’t understand…………Is this the way it’s done before you reach the 20 week mark? It just sounds so wrong. She is to have her mc at home and then what does she do????
Anything you can tell me so I can help her I will be thankful for.
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