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Hi all, have decided to put up this post for the next week to share my experience of doing the controlled crying technique. I am starting it tonight with my 10 month old (following a recognised technique). We have had a tough time with him since he was a few months old as he has had repeated ear infections and got into the habit of waking, being taken into our bed/rocked asleep and given bottles through the night. Now we have a nightmare child who WILL NOT SLEEP…even during the day! As a result we have a tired baby and two exhausted, irritable and on the edge parents…it cannot go on! Our first child (now 4yrs) is a fantastic sleeper. We did this technique with him when he was around the same age, but his pattern wasn’t as bad. He only took a few nights and we never looked back…am thinking this time it will be harder! Anyway, I will let you all know how it goes so that anyone out there who thinks they will lose their minds with tiredness can be assured that it can get better…God, I hope this works, for all our sakes!!!!!!!!
will be thinking of you…hope it works for you, stick at it and remember it’ll be worth it in the end….best of luck….
Oh I dont like that CC, I find it breaks the trust between parent and baby… I favour the pick up put down method, 3 days and its works a treat.. I will give you the baby whispher book to have a read over if you want
I am not a big fan in principle of Controlled Crying, but more because I think it can be done incorrectly and abused…many people use it to ignore children’s cries for comfort and I don’t agree with leaving a very young child to cry (under 6mths) as yes it does break a child’s trust (a young child is crying after all because its an instinct if they want their parent)…however if you have created a pattern with an older child that they learn not to sooth themselves or get to sleep without being rocked etc (GUILTY!) then you have to break it! We tried comforting him but it makes the situation worse (he gets hysterical) so we won’t leave DS for anymore than a few minutes and will go back to reassure him that we are there..then will stretch the time slowly until he is asleep…I know this could take hours and many nights of in and out before he realises he can do this himself, but we have to try!! And guess who is on duty tonight!!!! 😥 😥 He is the kind of child who gets over stimulated very easily so touching him (especially picking him up) would be adisaster…we can but try, so wish me (and the neighbours) luck!!
Hi Babs,
Are you taking the controlled crying method from a book? If so what book is it? I have the baby whisperer book, and I found the pick up put down method great when our little one was unsettled at around 4mths, it really helped me to establish a great routine during the day and I used the pick up put down during the night if she woke, but she’s 9mths now and the pick up put down method just hasnt worked for me this time. I’m ready to try something new anyway!
I’ve heard the Gina Ford book is good. Any recommendations? I have a 21mth baby too and the 9mth old keeps waking her during the night. I need to take action and get some sleep!! 😥CC great and u the kind of woman who knows u have to be tough on urself 2 get the benefit, so u will do it 4 sure!
U will b giving the child gift of settling self, v v v v big thing. As long as not crying so hard as making self sick, v v v v v unusual (and u can deal with that eventuality anyway cos u will b awake listening! 1 change of bedding and clothing and all done!)
Go girl, u doing the right thing 4 UR WHOLE FAMILY, that’s what’s imp.
Best of luck with it, will watch and c how u go (remember, u not like ly to c an improving PATTERN b4 3 nights over, then u should make staedy, overall progress)
I BIG Gina Ford fan – The Contented Baby book, worked a treat 4 both mine…
I’d like to wish u gud luck too….i very recently went thru it with my 17 mth old dd…I didn’t think it wud work but it did….an odd time she still will stir and wake up, but when i go in 2 tuck her in, she now goes straight back to sleep, as oppose to before, when we could be in an out all night, and her wanting to be held the whole time…I’m not sure if I used the CC but it would have been very similar…the main thing I had to break was picking her up…..as thats what she kept waking for but all night long….anyway she’s a very strong willed child and it took about 7 days…I posted here and found the responses very encouaging and it kept me going! sorry a bit of a ramble..GOOD LUCK!
My ds2 is starting to wake during the night too, he is getting teeth at the moment… but the problem is when he wakes he is talking and laughing, kicking the side of the cot (the side that rattles) kicking the end of the cot….. he has us all awake. I dont go into him I just let him burn it off but that could take an hour or more……… Im afraid to go into him, If I do he might think its morning or im in to play.
I know he wouldnt be crying but im not joking the racket he makes is UNREAL!!!
Any advice😆 😆 Its so hard when they wake up and are actually pleasant about it!! Well, last night was hard but I got through it…started at 7pm with a bath and a bottle and down to sleep (for baby not me unfortunately)…hubby did this as I was working…he said weeman did cry but he stuck it out and weeman feel alsleep eventually. The fun and games started at 1.45am when I was on duty…weeman woke and I attended to him (doodie call)..left it one minute and returned to lie him back down…he fell asleep. He let out yelps but settled himself at 2.40am, 3.45am and 4.50am (think he has a stop watch!!)…round two started from 5.10am until 6.30am when he continued to wake every five to ten minutes and I attended to him every one to two minutes…hubby now took over and guess what!!! True to form weeman went back to sleep until 8.30am!!!!!!! He NEVER sleeps that long!!! Weeman’s brother was late for playschool as we all fell asleep!! I feel great now as I slept a bit and I didn’t feel frustrated through the night as I had some structure to follow rather than that helpless feeling of battling a crying baby…NIGHT TWO tonight and I am sure it will be tough again but I am not dreading it like I have been dreading going to bed for weeks!
Its hard, but it does work…..
The tears break your heart, but it is worth it in the end…..
YOU CAN DO IT!!!! 😉TIRED!!! He slept all night until I woke him at 6am to take over!!! Its the best sleep he has had in months, and then he went back until 8.30!!!! I am not bitter, I swear!! 👿 In fairness he has been doing alot over the last few months during the nights to try to comfort weeman..it will take MANY nights of sleep before either one of us looks "rested"…So far today weeman is in good form but won’t nap! I am not going to get too frustrated at this point as we will try again tonight and I am hoping that the better sleep he has a night will result in better naps during the day…well, thats the theory!!! Is he the only 10mth old who refuses to sleep during the day? 20 minutes is a bonus!!
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