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My ds does not have a great appetite. Gone are the days when he was alot younger and he would eat the same dinner as me. A good serving of everything, loved his veg his fruit etc, was neve a great meat eater but would devour everything else. Over the last few years or two his appetite has been terrible and its now that bad that his younger brother half his age eats twice as much as him. Then a few days ago he said to me that his legs arms and face are fat. Believe me they are by no means fat. He is eating fuck all and its not from example as well all eat like mad things in this house, especially me i never do much else only eat
(my fav passtime). The last year has been a rough one so maybe putting it down to that then i said nah its not that. He is so feckin (excuse the french) insistant that he is fat it makes me want to shake him. A close friend if mine that i was talking to this evening told me that she would cook his favourite dinner (spaghetti bolognese) 7 days a week for him if it meant for him to eat. Just wondering did any of you have a similar experience. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Hope you all had a wonderful xmas and a happy new year.How old is he?
The answer could depend of it.
Yes I (don’t know, just a personal feeling) would cook him his favorite meal 7 days a week. And even weigh the plate before his eats and after (be sure he doesn’t know you’re cheking how much exactly he eats).
And see after a week or so, if he eats well, just he became a fussy eater or if he doesn’t eat because he’s concen about his "fat"
If you have some concern, talk to your gp next time you see him.Hope you’ll get more answer than mine, as I’m very unsure about what you should do.
Take care,
Fabiennehi mumof2 its sad that your little boy is thinking that way.would it have anything to do with school.my little girl is 6 and i have to say since she started school everything seems to be about how you look.she has said to me to get her some nice cloyhes cos only the girls with nice clothes get invited to parties.she has very hairy legs and she has come home very upset some days cos the girls make fun of her about it.she has also brought up the fat thing saying that she cant have dinner cos she will get fat.i stand her in front of the mirror and tell her how beautiful she is.i try to explain to all my kids that it take all kinds to make up the world and you should never be mean to anyone if they are different in any way from yourself.it very hard on kids nowadays cos there is so much out there about looking a certain way.everyone is expected to be thin and have the perfect face and unfortunately it seems to be coming to kids at a very young age.im sure your little boy is perfect but how to get him to believe that is the question.just keep telling him what a wonderful little boy he is.good luck with it
God he is far from Fat, he is the polar opposite…. looks like he needs a good feed!
I’d talk to the gp, even if he doesnt eat you could talk to the gp about getting the drinks/milkshakes that are meal supplements. But its something i would worry about…… I hate when my mil says to ds1 oh look at your fat belly, now he is over 3 stone but tall and skin and bone.
People should watch what they say to kids.
I was talking to a mother the other day and she said her 4 year old told her she was fat and it was the girl down the street that told her she was too fat 😯 😯 😯
You could ignore it and not give him attention by it, not being bad but with all that was going on could he be using food as he way to get your full attention….. i know my ds1 is doing that at the moment, from a child who ate the legs off the table to last night being made sit for 2 hours at the table before he ate his dinner 🙄thanks girls for all your opinions. thats what i love about mt all the knowledge and wisdom etc. dont you just love it.
My four year old came into the house a few weeks ago and asked me ‘Mammy, am I fat?’
I nearly fell out of my standing, shes 4 years old!!! A little girl who lives down the road from us, 7 years old, just did not want to play with her and told her to go home and that she did not want to play with her because she is fat.
My initial reaction was to freak out but if I did that, I would be making it into an issue so I was as calm as could be (Oscar deserved performance) and asked her ‘who is my most beautiful girl?’, she replied quite confidentially that she is and then I asked her to repeat after me ‘I am perfectly proportioned!’
It took quite a few goes for her to get it right but she did learn how to say it eventually and we were laughing at that stage. I said if anyone says that to her again, she should reply that she is, ‘perfectly proportioned’ and that should shut them up.
I thought by teaching her a new phrase it would distract from the situation and it seemed to work, so crisis averted for now!
We don’t own a weighing scales in our house and she never hears me saying I am over weight or asking ‘does my bum look big in this?’ (I am taking part in OT but thats just to get fitter and feel healthier). I think I’m nice the way I am and all I want out of OT is to tone up a bit.
Its sad that your little boy is feeling this way. Can you ask him is someone in school saying it to him – it has to be coming from somewhere?
What kind of a world do we live in that children are worrying about their weight, god its mad.
I hope you get sorted with your little guy soon and he gets past this.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
My four year old came into the house a few weeks ago and asked me ‘Mammy, am I fat?’
I nearly fell out of my standing, shes 4 years old!!! A little girl who lives down the road from us, 7 years old, just did not want to play with her and told her to go home and that she did not want to play with her because she is fat.
My initial reaction was to freak out but if I did that, I would be making it into an issue so I was as calm as could be (Oscar deserved performance) and asked her ‘who is my most beautiful girl?’, she replied quite confidentially that she is and then I asked her to repeat after me ‘I am perfectly proportioned!’
It took quite a few goes for her to get it right but she did learn how to say it eventually and we were laughing at that stage. I said if anyone says that to her again, she should reply that she is, ‘perfectly proportioned’ and that should shut them up.
I thought by teaching her a new phrase it would distract from the situation and it seemed to work, so crisis averted for now!
We don’t own a weighing scales in our house and she never hears me saying I am over weight or asking ‘does my bum look big in this?’ (I am taking part in OT but thats just to get fitter and feel healthier). I think I’m nice the way I am and all I want out of OT is to tone up a bit.
Its sad that your little boy is feeling this way. Can you ask him is someone in school saying it to him – it has to be coming from somewhere?
What kind of a world do we live in that children are worrying about their weight, god its mad.
I hope you get sorted with your little guy soon and he gets past this.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
This Fat thing really bugs me. As an older teenager and indeed up till I was about 25 I was a size 6…. the number of people who referred to me as anorexic as lightly as if it referred to a pimple on someone’s chin was incredible. Can I just say at this point I was and still am far from Annorexic. I ate from morning till night, but I must have had a fast metabolism because nothing stuck anywhere, no boobs, no bum, no nothing…. nearly 20 years later size 14 and trying to keep from getting bigger!!!!
In my day as a skinny young thing, models were slim, but not this size Zero stuff we are being forced to look at time and time again. I now have a 15 yr old daughter, who like her Mam was is very skinny and gets the hurtful comments from here and there. I don’t worry about her because I know what she’s eating and I have a fair idea like myself she’ll gain weight at some stage and not know whats hit her. But she is surrounded by friends about size 10 who are convinced they are fat, always on diets, I find it so upsetting to think that the media has forced all this upon us.
Now for a young child to wonder is he/she fat…. thats incredulous. But kids are now more aware of fashion, sizes etc. so small thanks to High School Musical and Hannah Montana that I suppose its only natural they are more aware earlier. As if this wasn’t problem enough we now have programs on tv about the worlds fattest children, how the UK and Ireland’s kids are becoming obese.
Yes obesity is a problem in the young these days more so than in the past, but that does not mean that all children are fat. All we can do is re-assure them and if your school is running fit-camps etc to try and offset obesity, remind them not all children necessitate this and that to some it can portray and very bad body image which can be damaging, mentally and physically.
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